Ever imagined of a situation where a son could not marry because his parents never married… Well it sounds very strange because unless parents don’t marry the son cannot marry!!! What is even stranger is how could parents have a child without getting married. The immediate doubt that we get in our mind is of this being an illegal act of the parents!
Universal and Conventional process is to give birth to a child only after getting married… But in many cases it is not so in the Dangs! Sounds surprising and unbelievable. Even I thought the same before I happened to understand it from a broader perspective through the tribes of Dangs. This is the case with plenty of Tribal families.
The learning that I have dawned out of the findings takes my respect for the tribes even higher… Yes they got into the relationship without getting married but with due respect of community. The tribes are allowed to do such an act officially and for them it is legal. These tribes when they got into relation did not marry since it was a costly affair then. They have to spend behind wedding preparations and most expensive of all – the cost of dining the entire village (of size ranging 500 to 2000 tribes). They did not have the money for the official wedding in tribal way. Hence they did not marry. This is an adjustment act and we need to learn a lot from this thought. Now that their son/daughter is an adult and they have sufficient money for the wedding, they (the parents) will marry first (about few minutes before) their son/daughter. Hence they will get officially married before their sons/daughters wedding. One must be surprised to know that in some instances there are Three generations that get married on the same day…
I think the Tribes of Dangs have simple solution to most complex problem. The cause for such act is that generations should not suffer due to poor economic condition.
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